Coping with Grief after the Loss of a Loved One
At some point in our lives, we all experience the death of a loved one. This could be a very grim experience, and for many, they would like to forget about it all together. Its hard not only to come to terms with death but to understand that person is in a better place. No one goes through a death of a loved one without struggling, but with these steps that I present to you today, I hope to help you deal with the pain and grief of a loved one passing.
Some people try to keep their sadness/grief inside, but this process will never allow someone to cope with it. Grief can last anywhere from a year to 18 months and in some cases even longer. Sadness is expected when getting over loses, and its okay to be sad. With this time period, it is important to understand many different emotions will come out from this phase and its okay to find support. Find a friend, family member, or partner who has either experienced this grief before or who is feeling the same pain as you. Together, you will be able to walk through the storm together in order to pull through the pain of loss. Remember, don’t deny your pain; let it out or it will always keep a hold on you.
Continue Your Day-by-Day Routine
Keep in your routine and allow yourself to not be shaken on a day-to-day level. Make yourself that breakfast every morning, as usual; wake up and go to bed at the same time and walk your dog. It’s important to stay in the motion of your life; those daily routines are what keeps you together and working. Don’t stop doing what you love either; this is your escape. It’s not keeping yourself busy; it’s enjoying your passions and allowing your emotions to be understood and shaped through your love.
Find the Right Help
Don’t find your healing in the use of things like alcohol. Finding your peace in other substances can be dangerous to you, and it’s not a proper way to deal with any emotions. Seek the support outside of your normal friend group if you don’t think they would understand. One way to find these types of people and support is going to https://www.griefshare.org/.
Keep Their Memory Engraved
Remember, there is no clock given to you on how long it will take to heal. Enjoy the memory of your lost one and know that you enjoyed their time here. Spread the memory of your loved one by continuing to grow and develop and use their life as an inspiration to continue yours.